Ephesians IV
Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into Him who is the head, into Christ. (Ephesians 4:15 ESV)
Talking
We talk too much.
Sometimes, we think we need to correct every error we hear, regardless of the effect of our correction.
Sometimes, we think we need to only say nice things, regardless of the effect of our silence.
Sometimes, we think we get to say whatever we want, because we are free, regardless of how thoughtless we often are.
But instead, the test of whether or not to speak, has two steps.
First, if the thing you are saying is not loving do NOT say it. We can argue about what exactly IS the most loving thing to say, but unless we are using love as the backdrop, we have no business speaking.
Second, if the thing we are saying does not shine a light on Jesus, do NOT say it. Every conversation a Christian has needs to aim someone (sometimes others, sometimes ourselves) into more understanding of Jesus, more appreciation of Jesus, more affection for Jesus, more devotion for Jesus, more Love of Jesus.
Whether we are telling jokes around the dinner table, teaching Mathematics, giving advice, asking for advice, being casual, being purposeful, discussing current events, or talking about unicorns… talk towards HIM… in love… or stop talking.